With love being on everyone’s mind during the month of February, you may find yourself dreading the questions you will receive about your relationship. It makes you hopeful every time you see the big red hearts and the jewelry commercials:
Do you think he’s ready to commit?
Has your relationship become serious?
Do you think he will ever ask you to marry him?
You wish you knew the answer. But you don’t because you don’t even know yourself. You feel like he is your soulmate – you hope he is, anyway. You want the happily ever after but wonder if you will ever have it.
You’re dating an Emotionally Unavailable Man and you just aren’t sure where your relationship is going.
Some of the indicators you are dating an Emotionally Unavailable Man include:
He tells you how special you make him feel, but he doesn’t make you feel special. The focus is on him and his needs.
His words and actions don’t line up – days may go by without even a text, then when he sees you, you are swept up in the passion.
He only wants to see you when he wants sex, not to hang out or get to know you and your friends.
Blames others for relationships that failed.
You probably know this relationship is not healthy. Unfortunately, you feel like you have invested a lot of time in the relationship and even worse – you care about him.
Being emotionally unavailable is more than just not being able to talk about his feelings; it goes beyond that to having a barrier between the two of you that you just can’t break through. Yet, it pushes you to try harder to make the relationship work. When someone is distant and passive in the relationship, it can make the other person go to the extremes and sacrifice themselves to try to gain the love of the emotionally unavailable person.
It can be hard to leave a relationship, even one that is not meeting your emotional needs. No matter what you do, you can’t ‘fix’ them. They don’t want to be fixed.
You are scared of being alone, starting over, and possibly repeating previous poor relationship choices. Yes, you may find yourself jumping from one relationship to another and each of them may be with someone who is emotionally unavailable.
Even when you know you deserve better, it’s hard to let go.
In counseling, we can work together to help you move beyond these relationships that aren’t healthy. You owe it to your happiness to learn how to find and have a healthy, fulfilling relationship. With help, you can break those patterns, and be able to reach that level of happiness you want and deserve.
Contact me at 305-318-2231, to get started on a new relationship path today.